The science of safewords: Language, limits, and reflection
Safewords aren’t just about stopping—they’re about knowing yourself deeply enough to speak when it counts. In this blog, we explore the emotional science of safewords: how they work, why they matter, and what they reveal about trust, trauma, and pleasure. From navigating edge play to dismantling shame, this is a tender, honest look at how stopping can sometimes be the most powerful way to keep going.
The Drama Triangle and power play: Are we healing or repeating patterns?
BDSM is built on power exchange—but without awareness, it can become a stage where we unconsciously reenact toxic dynamics instead of breaking free from them. Enter the Drama Triangle—a psychological model that explains the cycles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor that keep us trapped in unhealthy relationships. Are you surrendering from a place of strength, or because you don’t believe you have a choice? Are you leading with respect, or are you playing the hero to avoid your own shit?