Affirming desire: Integrating kink into ethical mental health care
What if the parts of us society calls deviant are actually doorways to healing? In this post, we explore why kinky clients are still misunderstood in therapy—and how that’s holding back their healing. From consent and power dynamics to aftercare and self-integration, this piece is a call to action for therapists to meet clients where they are: rope marks, shame, glitter, and all. Whether you're a clinician, a healer, or just kink-curious, this is your invitation to expand what it means to truly hold space.
The Drama Triangle and power play: Are we healing or repeating patterns?
BDSM is built on power exchange—but without awareness, it can become a stage where we unconsciously reenact toxic dynamics instead of breaking free from them. Enter the Drama Triangle—a psychological model that explains the cycles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor that keep us trapped in unhealthy relationships. Are you surrendering from a place of strength, or because you don’t believe you have a choice? Are you leading with respect, or are you playing the hero to avoid your own shit?